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Hi all,
First time this. During lockdown I haven't seen my son since March as one of my sons is on a vulnerable list. My ex says that my job increases his risk as I am a paramedic and therefore I cannot see my son. Also during lockdown my annual review of maintenance happened and has decreased as prior to the lock down my shifts allowed me to be in the next bracket. She has contested this with the child maintenance as he's with her during lockdown can this be right. He's back at school and seeing other people socially distancing but she's stopping me from seeing him as she's anxious over my exposure. He's 15 years old we can easily social distance and he has his own room I'm asking why he can't stay over now.
hi,
for the maintenance part, I remember on the CMS site that they stated that they are not going to make changes to shared care payments if one parent is not seeing child on a temporary basis, due to covid19. so hopefully they don't make changes.
is she expecting you to stop working for NHS so you can see your son? would be very silly. do you call your son? he should be free to decide if he wants to see you or not. my ex kept my kids away from me for 3 months. not a key worker. but contact is resuming now that lot of schools are accepting kids back and lockdown close to being completely lifted. try reasoning with her some more. otherwise you could look at taking legal route.
CSM will not make you pay more because you haven't seen your son since march. You should be seeing your son and CSM are aware that many dads cant see children during this pandemic through no fault of their own
Hello blueandy144,
Is there anyway that you and your sons mum could arrange a time when you can have some phone time with him? Or would your sons mum be willing to let you see him outside his house from a safe distance ? It could be that mum is anxious because of your job, about him staying over but would she consider another outdoors option?
Best Wishes,
Fegans Parent Support Volunteer
Hey, I am really sorry to hear that, it's a frequent problem nowadays, and it's sad, however you have every right to see your son, I guess you are dealing now with anxiety
Hi, do you have a court order in place for your arrangements?
Hey, I am really sorry to hear that, it's a frequent problem nowadays, and it's sad, however you have every right to see your son, I guess you are dealing now with anxiety
First of all, you need a clear head, and I know because of this situation you are dealing now with anxiety and your head could be a mess. I suggest you some natural remedies for relaxing your mind and body.
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