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Don't know the date but the FHDRA is on 12th February 2021
Should I mention to CAFCASS during our chat that the mother is bad mouthing me to the kids ? They tell me very odd things such as I am a bad man, I do not love their mummy anymore etc. OR will this be considered slandering?
I will email them / call them next week
hi,
yes I think you should tell cafcass (without attacking your ex) that your very concerned that children are making strange comments lately, like your a bad man etc. and it is very out of the ordinary.
I agree - it's parental alienation, but it must also be distressing for your children, so that's a welfare issue.
Hi Guys
My section 7 report is in and this was the outcome and I am delighted
1. The children remain living in Newcastle with their mother and spend time with their father as outlined in the report or accordance with any agreement reached between the parents.
2.The Parents access support services in respect of their communication with one another in respect of the children going forward. This may be accessed through Relationships Matter and I can assist with the parents accessing this if it is agreed.
3. If the parents can not agree then the matter will need to be listed for a final hearing and Cafcass will attend this if required. I can see no other role for Cafcass.
I am a surgeon and honestly work from 8 - 5 most days but it is flexible in the sense, if work is done, I can go home or arrive late depending on weekly commitments. I also do 1 in 10 weekly night on calls which is Friday 8am to Friday at 8 am. How do I propose child arrangements?
I was thinking alternate weeks 50/50 as I might get less anyway. Any suggestions?
hi,
that's great news, you must be so relieved. If your able to do any school runs then you could have the kids more. you could do something like pick them up from/after school friday, return on monday morning to school, if your able to do that. can also look at having them overnight mid-week? your night work might cause issues. depends how flexible your work is.
Hi Bill337
I can work around arrangments if needed. I was hoping to do the 2-2-3 schedule. 2 days with mum, then 2 days with me and alternate 3 day weekends
On my call weeks(1 in 10 weeks), I guess I will have to get childminders to help or just agree to the fact I cannot have them.
I am also hoping she will agree to co-parent and not go to court, am I correct in thinking the court will rule according to CAFCASS recommendations?
I am also going to propose a co-parenting app which I am happy to pay for as she is a nightmare to communicate with.
I have had a look at this website https://www.parents.com/parenting/best-co-parenting-apps/
and have also downloaded a free app = appclose which is okay to start with I guess.
Any suggestions?
hi,
yes courts like to largely follow the Cafcass recommendations. I am not familiar with any apps, when I was in court, Cafcass recommended I use the Our Family Wizard app.