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Hi, I'm not really one to post anything online anywhere, due to crazy anxieties, but I am in a situation where I am completely screwed.
For as long as I can remember, I have suffered with depression and anxiety. I have beautiful children with my ex, and they are my world.
About a year ago, I split up with my ex, due to me being a complete idiot and thinking I didn't love her anymore. Since splitting up, we have slept with each other a number of times, and we have both slept with one or two other people. Since the lockdown, I moved in with her so I could see the kids as much as possible. We slept with each other again, and you can probably tell where this is going... She fell pregnant.
She has the coil in as contraception, but evidently its not as effective as we hoped. Since she told me a couple days ago, I have been really struggling, constantly thinking about suicide. I know this is selfish and I will get a lot of hate for even thinking like that, but my mind will not switch off.
I don't even know if this is the right place to put this, I'm just hoping for the best advice someone can offer.
hi,
as you both got back together, you might aswell make a go of it. put things right, for both of you and your children. being around your children all the time will be better for your mental health.
It seems to me that you both want this relationship to work, despite all obstacles. Have you sought any help for your depression, as that's essential in my view. I would say that you also need relationship counselling to help you both find ways to make the relationship work, that would seem to be the best way forward for all of you.
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