[Solved] Hey guys father problems here

I would contact a mediator to see if you can get contact started up again. if she refuses to engage then you should actually take her to family court for access. Theres a long wait so you need to do something straight away.

It could be worth emailing her politely that you want some form of contact reinstated and you intend if you cant amicably agree something that you will be taking her to court to resolve matters as you have no choice . children will be wanting to see their father

Do you have a child arrangement order in place? It may well be you will have to to court to arranges this?

Everyone is affected by COVID, but there shouldn't be any issue with them coming to your house as government allowed this? Maybe ask if it can be arranged to meet them at park or any other outdoor area for the time being?

my ex is like that. she never got on with my mum, so does not want my mum caring for kids when they are with me. i would prefer not to let my mum look after them at her age. gets easily stressed out.

my ex kept kids from me during lockdown, saying its issue with our vulnerable parents. but she resumed contact from last weekend. if you went to court, then you probably do stand a chance of keeping the same routine. or you can do what most of us dads do, is see kids every other weekend, fri-sun or fri-mon, and mid week overnights. whatever works for you.

Thanks you gents,

The only arrangements I have is by word of mouth.

She wants me out of the picture so her and her new partner can bring them up with out me.

My ex wife actually told my ex girl friend this while she was drunk.

Not only that, yesterday she accused me off allowing my 13 year old daughter to smoke a vape.

After questioning my daughter she was infact down her place and in my exs custody.

She also given her and her mate shots of alcohol also which i have videos for
I got plenty of other videos to of how my daughter acts down there. Not the photos fsther wants to see on tik tok and insta.

Also got told by a mates daughter that she can notice the difference in posting stuff when she's at my house and at the exs house.

At my house she said the videos are normal for a 13 year but in the exs custody they are very explicit and not nice for a father to be sent.

I think shes playing a dangerous game here.

As for my mum not being able to look after them, she and her partner have been on holiday twice over the last 2 years and guess who had the 2 kids then.
Me and my mother. My mother had them until I come home from work. Its only when it suits her that I can have them.

My daughter who is 13 has already said she doent want any change to the days so I'm hoping this is going to go in my favour.

Thanks for the reply guys.

problem with informal arrangement is she can chop and change, restrict your contact whenever she feels like. was happening to me, before i took it to court.

Any reason you haven't started court proceedings yet?

Hello,
I just wanted to pick up on your concerns you shared over your daughters social media use.
There are some great online sites you can access that guide parents on social media safety and how to discuss with your teenager about using them safely.
Charities which offer all kinds of guidance include ;Fegans, Care For the Family, NSPCC, and some examples of UK online sites that offer tips and advice include: parent zone.org.uk, internet matters.org.uk and safer internet.org.uk

If you are able to, having a one to one discussion with your daughter about keeping safe on social media sites, will hopefully encourage her to become more aware about making wise choices when posting things on there.
Be encouraged, and keep communication open with your daughter where you can.
All the best, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer