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Hey dads,
Struggling to see the light but continuing to push on. Not sure how I do it but its gotta be done.
Ant seen my kids for 5months now. Another 3months to go and Im not sure even then I'd get time I want with them.
What kind of person would hold the children back from the other parent? Without a valid reason. I keep reading allegation ex have stuck on dads facing the same issue. But who cares what dad and mums have gone thru, why fact find based on something in the past. Long as its not children related who cares. Its over, youve moved out and moved on.
The court process is lengthy and by time you mustered up a decent a CAO, you would think the relationship between the two would have calmed down. But is seem like all dads have a challenge against them from the word go, first they have to defend any allegation, this cant be in the best interest of the children. If us dads werent child focussed we wouldnt bother with the whole court thing. To us or me anyways, its all about my children!!
I can't understand this. I have read some dads having no interim contact while the allegations are being looked into, most of them have no concerns towards the children anyways. Adding more lost time on something that has no meaning, end of the day the courts are not counsellors.
The point im trying to make or one I am fighting with each day. The idea of arguing for many more months and possibly years about something that is untrue at the cost of my children losing time with there dad. Every min missed is to much. For some of us that means, our child first steps or first words or first school day would not be apart of.
I was under the impression October comes and il see my kids, seems like I got this all wrong!!! I have to gear up for a fight but im not sure Ive got any fight in me left. I read nonmol make this much much harder. 🙁 Back against the wall.
Few more days before its expires now. Not received anything all week. Probz last min they hit me with it. Just wondering whether courts would normally wait till the end before contacting me ??
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I agree, not for one second did I think my case would drag on for as long as it would have. I thought I would be having my kids stay over, have lots of time with them, but I get nothing, i fight and i fight but I dont seem to get anywhere at all.
My ex and her family must have hearts of stone as they see how much my kids enjoyed seeing me, how happy they are when they are with me, but they do not seem to care about their feelings at all, it is just that my ex made up allegations against her, and she is sticking by them and feels my kids should suffer for it too.
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