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Hi all, I am looking for advice. I split up with my ex 2 years ago. In that time we have been co-parenting our 2 children, B11 and G9. We have maintained an ammicable relationship, getting together on birthdays, christmas, etc, or getting together to discuss the children. I also have a new partner, whom I now have a child with.
In february this year, out of the blue, my ex moved without telling me where she was going and stopped contact with the children. I had a visit from the social worker, who said that my son had accused me of being abusive, and my ex said I subjected her to domestic violence.
None of the accusations are true, and I explained this to the social worker, offered explanations to all of my sons accusations, which were accepted. The social workers have said I am no risk to my children, and that there is no reason I cant have access. However, they have raised concerns about my exs mental health, the cleanliness of her house, the childrens poor diet and emotional neglect to my daughter.
My ex is stopping contact, I beleive she is manipulating the children against me. I have evidence of the good relationship between myself and my ex prior to the current situation. I have evidence of my son wanting to do things with me, cinema, play pool etc, and my daughter wanting to spend more time with me.
I want to gain custody of my daughter, as I feel it is in her best interests, as her brother is very controlling and bullies her, and her mother is neglecting her emotional needs. I want to arrange visitiation with my son to rebuild our relationship.
Can anyone give me adice as to what to do next, as my ex is making up any excuse to stop the children seeing me, (domestic violence etc). She will use this as an excuse to refuse mediation.
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
hi,
if you want to apply to court to gain custody, you will need to speak to a family mediator first. can book a MIAM meeting by yourself. they would need to give you permission to apply to court.
then you would have to fill in a c100 form. can do it online, it costs £215:
Hi B12
As bill says you will need to apply for a CAO and as part of this the allegations will be looked into first and then contact and residence.
Based on the allegations the case should be exempt from mediation although a mediator may need to sign off the form.
Is there any way you can get contact in the meantime? Via a 3rd party such as a mutual friend facilitating? Or video calls?
Thanks
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