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Hi all,
So long story short I have my 5 year old son every other weekend and recently my ex signed him up for football training every Sunday at 10am-11am back at his village 30 mins away which is fair enough means driving twice to his village every Sunday because I drop him off at 5pm bit im used to it tho feels hard,
Got a text message 2 days ago saying "Might get son into singing lesson at 2pm every Sunday he really wants to do it" I replied sorry but as spoken about i prefer to keep my weekends with him free bar footy training so I can plan family events or would mean Saturday is my only full day I can do anything with him or drive to beach or something plus means driving to football driving back and going home 11am till 1.30pm then driving back for a singing lesson 2pm to 3pm which is just so so awkward when your drop offs are 5pm.
I don't think she understands the weekends I have are mine I run my own house lol?...............
Hi
I'm not there yet in relation to contact with my kids but I also keep an eye out for issues like yours for pointers for me in the future and how I might handle should similar arise.
Not sure on others thoughts but I'd respond as you are suggesting, which is either she signs him up and accepts he can only do it every alternate weekend when you don't have him or if it is that important to allow you access maybe every weekend and so she has him 5 days during the week and then you have 2 days every weekend.. This may cause her to reflect and back down and maybe look at classes on an evening after school during the week.
Out of curiosity who is expected to pay for these classes?
Let her do what she wishes and just dont take him to music classes. its your time and up to you if u take him to classes or not
Exacley just seem bonkers when I have him Friday to Sunday to wake up 8am drive to his village for 10am to play footy till 11am then drive back home for 11.30am then drive back to his village again for 2pm class then back home again 3.30pm then drive back to his village again to drop him off at 5pm does that sound exhausting to you.
All that petrol and running around where she lives
yes i would just do the footie training and thats it
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