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Ex has turned up late for court

 
(@bear23)
Eminent Member Registered

My court trial today and Im waiting still in the side room.

Time was 10am

She turned up at 12:10 

Now we are in separate rooms waiting till god knows when. 

Will this look bad on her? 

 

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Topic starter Posted : 25/03/2024 1:17 pm
(@dadmod2)
Illustrious Member

Hi,

Is this a final hearing? Am surprised they waited for her to turn up so late. If she has a reasonable excuse, they will probably overlook it. How did it go?

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Posted : 25/03/2024 5:36 pm
(@bear23)
Eminent Member Registered

First. 

Most likely blamed the traffic and knowing her shows up when she's ready as she needs to look a million dollars before leaving the house my daughter was always late for school for the exact same reason. 

Section 7 has been called as its been blamed on my 11 year old daughter that she doesn't want to see me to her out of a breach.

I've been allowed to call her once a week I got to choose, 2 days I mentioned and there was always an excuse to not call that day. Swimming and roller skating neither after school activities i knew about. Think the court knew her game and 3rd day I mentioned they said tough to her it happening. No time either I can call when I want which I think my evidence highlighted how controlling she is with mine and my daughter's communication and relationship. My daughter 11 and is never allowed to text or call on her own free will.

The mom is now using my daughter to have a pop at me through the phone.

I've received voice notes from daughter having a go at me saying I'm a horrible person for taking the mom to court. That csa will be told I'm not seeing her. These I have shown the court.

They did say to the mom to not do that. Yet I received a voice again from daughter this morning about court. Angry. She seems confused as to what the real story is I can clearly hear the story her side is being fabticated.

Is this worth mentioning to caffcass? 

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Topic starter Posted : 26/03/2024 1:52 pm
(@dadmod2)
Illustrious Member

@bear23 hi, yes I suggest you tell Cafcass how mother is manipulating child and mentioning court proceedings. This may fall under alienating behaviours (parental alienation): https://www.cafcass.gov.uk/parent-carer-or-family-member/applications-child-arrangements-order/how-your-family-court-adviser-makes-their-assessment-your-childs-welfare-and-best-interests/alienating-behaviours

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Posted : 26/03/2024 2:24 pm
(@bear23)
Eminent Member Registered

Thanks. Parent alienation has been going on for years never mentioned it to caffcass as I felt they would put it down as tittle tattle.

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Topic starter Posted : 27/03/2024 1:30 pm
(@katebrownell86)
Eminent Member Registered

Posted by: @bear23


My court trial today and Im waiting still in the side room.

Time was 10am

She turned up at 12:10 

Now we are in separate rooms waiting till god knows when. 

Will this look bad on her? 

 

It's frustrating when someone is late to a court trial, especially when it affects your own schedule and nerves. Courts generally take tardiness seriously, as it can disrupt proceedings and reflect poorly on the person who is late, potentially affecting their credibility. However, the exact consequences depend on the judge and the circumstances surrounding the delay. Hang in there and stay focused on your own preparation—it's the best way to handle the situation professionally.

 

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Posted : 17/06/2024 4:56 am
Bear23 reacted
(@bear23)
Eminent Member Registered

Posted by: @katebrownell86

Posted by: @bear23


My court trial today and Im waiting still in the side room.

Time was 10am

She turned up at 12:10 

Now we are in separate rooms waiting till god knows when. 

Will this look bad on her? 

 

It's frustrating when someone is late to a court trial, especially when it affects your own schedule and nerves. Courts generally take tardiness seriously, as it can disrupt proceedings and reflect poorly on the person who is late, potentially affecting their credibility. However, the exact consequences depend on the judge and the circumstances surrounding the delay. Hang in there and stay focused on your own preparation—it's the best way to handle the situation professionally.

 

Thanks it's good to hear that they do.

I later found out that she emailed the court in her statement to respond to the breach allegations before direction hearing (which I later received a copy of after court which she should have sent me a copy but failed to) it mentioned her asking them to delay the court date as she wanted time to get her evidence. The court didn't agree and I think she tried to get out of it on the court day again thinking they would change the date with whatever excuse she used that day but they simply told her we will wait.

 

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Topic starter Posted : 27/06/2024 8:10 am
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