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Hi folks,
Im interested to know how different people have dealt with not seeing their kids and the coping strategies that they have used?
I feel like I’m constantly grieving, the pain hurts your heart, it has been 5 months since I have last seen my daughter, she’s only 6 months old.
My ex has completely cut me out and cut me off, I have no way of contacting her because she will phone the police for harassment and has done previously.
I have found that keeping my myself busy with work and the gym and keeping my mind in a good space through meditation works for me but there are days when it hits you hard and you feel really down, you can’t just stop missing your kids especially when all you want to do is be a Dad to your child.
It’s so frustrating how much control these women have, and the way that they can lie and manipulate the system and get away with it. Fathers suffer a lot but most importantly the children are the one’s who suffer the most.
Hi Prisma,
hope your managing ok. have you been going through courts? if so what stages are you at?
Yes I also did same as you, focus on work, exercise, mediation. I am 3 years into it. What helped me in beginning was just taking action, like getting the ball rolling to take the legal route.
Hi Prisma,
hope your managing ok. have you been going through courts? if so what stages are you at?
Yes I also did same as you, focus on work, exercise, mediation. I am 3 years into it. What helped me in beginning was just taking action, like getting the ball rolling to take the legal route.
I decided against court at this time and I’m trying mediation for the second time just to try and establish contact. I had my MIAM last week and now I’m just waiting to see if she agrees or not. After that I can then decide my next step.
@bill337
Ive had the email today and she has refused mediation. Will this go against her if she doesn’t have a valid reason?
Hi,
It may make her look unreasonable. You tried. So next steps would be for mediator to give you permission to apply to court. They should sign a page and send it to you. Then you have to fill in a c100 form. Can be done online: https://www.gov.uk/looking-after-children-divorce/apply-for-court-order
It costs £232. You will likely wait 2-3 months before your 1st court date, so would recommend you get things rolling quickly. The longer you leave it, the more anguish and suffering for you.
@bill337
I have the signed form already,
I need to apply for a parental responsibility order (she purposely registered without me) And also a contact order.
Court is something I really didn’t want to pursue because I know it’s costly, it’s already setup against us fathers and she will manipulate the system and take me right through the mill to make me suffer. But our children are worth fighting for and I know that karma is very real. All I want is to be a father to my child, all she wants to do is punish me by using a child.
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