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[Solved] Court during covid

 
(@dad24)
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Court is coming up next month and I'm nervous

I'm not entirely sure why I'm writing this either but I have had the emergency meeting so this is the first directions. I'm not sure what's going to come of it or how it will go, it's all over the phone but I'm not sure what to expect.

Do I tell the court what I want as the end result? Cafcass has suggested a section 7 report, does this mean that it will definitley be done even if me and my ex can agree to a new arrangement? What if I tell them what I want in the end and my ex uses it against me somehow. I'm really just not sure what to expect and my anxiety is hitting an all time high. I fear I'm going to lose my children and they are going to be put back in harms way due to cafcass report basically saying it's just conflict between parents.

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Topic starter Posted : 08/01/2021 1:21 am
(@warwickshire1)
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I read one of your previous posts. Children live with you at the moment i see. So at your next hearing a section 7 will be ordered and i am guessing why children are with yourself and not mum. If residency remains with you in the long run what you are proposing sounds fair. I imagine at this next hearing mum will be in agreement with yourself no doubt have her time increased to perhaps 8 hour unsupervised and maybe a few hours during the week (perhaps pick up from school and dinner depending on covid and if anyone a keyworker).

There will be plenty more hearings and nothing will be decided at your 1st hearing. It will also depend what your ex is seeking as well

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Posted : 08/01/2021 1:35 am
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(@dad24)
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Would an undertaking remain in place or would it be cancelled do you think?

I'm OK with increasing their time, their time has been positive with their mum recently.

We are all key workers so the children are in school at the moment. During the holidays, her time has been increased and has been going well, we seem to be communicating better recently but not sure if I'm gonna be knocked off my feet at the court hearing.

Worst thing to happen for me would be for it all to be turned on its head and me loose them.

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Topic starter Posted : 08/01/2021 1:44 am
(@warwickshire1)
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who has agreed to an undertaking? It is highly likely whoever has accepted one will have it remain whilst court proceedings are taken place. Courts will probably only increase it a bit with your agreement. They will gently persuade you as it keeps things moving whilst proceeding to the final hearing eventually.

Mum having residency wouldnt happen until final hearing at earliest. I have no idea what she has done but she may not get residency back and it will remain with you potentially.

The fact that contact is unsupervised already and its going well you couldnt rule out 50-50 shared care yet which is marginally less than residency. Only you know all the circumstances but fact she has unsupervised already does make me think she will end up with a fair amount in end.

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Posted : 08/01/2021 1:54 am
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(@dad24)
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She has agreed to an undertaking. That's reassuring that it will potentially stay in place for the duration of court.

Ah okay, its good to hear someone impartial giving advice.
I'm hesitant to give lots of details incase she somehow gets a hold of this and it is used against me somehow, I don't know if that's possible etc so I've been trying to be cautious

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Topic starter Posted : 08/01/2021 12:56 pm
(@warwickshire1)
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Its extremely unlikely as long as you dont mention names or what part of uk you are in. Reason why an undertaking will stay in place is because you can insist on it in return for increased contact. Your ex got contact last time only cause she agreed to an undertaking.

Generally in family court in my opinion you would only agree to an undertaking at interim hearing or any hearing before a final one if contact is been offered in exchange. No undertaking often means no contact in the early stages.
Undertaking generally nearly always get removed at a final hearing. You can inbox other members if you worried about putting certain stuff on forums etc.

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Posted : 08/01/2021 1:43 pm
(@dadmod4)
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She has agreed to an undertaking. That's reassuring that it will potentially stay in place for the duration of court.

Ah okay, its good to hear someone impartial giving advice.
I'm hesitant to give lots of details incase she somehow gets a hold of this and it is used against me somehow, I don't know if that's possible etc so I've been trying to be cautious

That's a sensible way to do this. Certainly ask generalised questions, and as above, don't mention personal details (names, or ages unless relevant) and you'll be fine.

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Posted : 08/01/2021 5:04 pm
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