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Hi everybody
I need important inquiries. I have almost 2 years I didn’t see my child .i fell depressed And stress so I applied for child arrangement order to Barnet family court in London
wife make allegations against me about demostic violence in 2014 that I hurting my son hand with lighter. My son was 4 years old. I go to police station in that time and I explain how does that accident happen by mistake. During that time Social services involved and I see my son in family centre and after investigation finish from police. I get no further action and no charge . And then I start see my son normal Until 2018 . Mother for my son change her name so court take
time until they find her and my child. And after that we got first hearing and it was by telephone because coronavirus. And during that hearing judge decided that we go to section 7 report from cafcass officer. And I did interview with cafcass officer by phone call. And she asked me too many questions and I answered her as I can. In that interview cafcass officer said to me your child doesn’t want see u because horrible things u did for him. I explain to her that I didn’t do nothing bad to him and this accident happen by mistake And no charge from police and my son now have 9 years and still young and his mother wash his brain with bad things about me. Now cafcass officer will see the best for my child and give recommendations to judge in court. Now I’m struggling that I can’t see my son anymore . Now I get too many questions and I hope I get answered
Did judge can prevent me for see my child?
Can I protest against recommendations from cafcass officer?
How I deal with that issue that my son doesn’t want see me ?
Can I appeal towards decision from judge?
Sorry for what you had to go through. This will get better.
You will have to wait for the section 7 report and see what it says. We can help you at that point.
What did you ask for in your application? be very specific, e.g. you want weekends and half holidays or whatever you want.
What's likely is that CAFCASS and judge will order some supervised contact for some time, progressing over to overnights and more contact.
Insist on the clear schedule.
Yes judge can prevent you from seeing your son - but this is very rare and only reserved for cases where abuse is proven. This is not your case.
Yes you can contest the officer's report in court, but there is no use fretting about it until you know what's in it.
Your son not wanting to see you will be fixed very quickly once you have some contact. Hopefully a bond will grow. It's only natural. CAFCASS/SS will help as well.
Yes you can appeal against the judge, but hold onto that thought - this is not lost yet.
Thanks for your positive feedback yes I did statement against allegations that x wife did with my son and statement about what I need from x But I fell cafcass Officer beside her side and ignore my statement . Even if I say to cafcass officer this accident happen by mistake and no charge from police and from 2015 I see my son normal until November 2018 with fighting with her for see him . And she says she can’t ignore whatever allegations from x wife. And She will talk with mouth for ur child. I said that allegations is wrong and false . And is that true that I got log in by police because I was by police station 2 times about accident and allegations from my wife about demostic violence. I means that cafcass officer will used that 2 reports from police against me even if no further action from police. Is it mean that I get police records? Did this court will responsible for building child maintenance as well or not ? Sorry I don’t have enough money for I can go through lawyers for my case. So I did everything alone with my self and I deal with that issue about my son with my self and direction from people got same problem like me or from experience from other dads. Many thanks flyingember for that advice
Many thanks flyingember. I will wait until I get 7 report from cafcass officer on 5 August and then I will update it here and I will seek advice if recommendations not fair . Many thanks flyingember for ur patience and advice
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