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HI Dads,
I need some advice regarding completing Secondary School form for next summer.
It's come to the time of completing the form for secondary school, and I need some advice to prevent any underhandedness by my XW regarding selection.
Bit of background - my X pulled my daughter from a faith primary school so she could move closer and in with her affair partner. Lots of legal wrangling and court to get access back, but I was successful in doing so. However, my daughter was in a new school by this point for around 6 month (non-faith) and even though I had the opportunity to go for having her sent back to her original school I didn’t have the heart to cause her more upheaval. My barrister proved to the judge that my X was a liar and selected a non-faith school as a priority purely to antagonise me. She produced the council application form for selecting the primary school and the faith school was 3rd choice. XW didn’t have an answer why when questioned why she did that.
Given those turn of events the judge put in the court order if we cannot agree on a secondary school we can return to court to duke it out.
Surprisingly she has contacted me and it seems via email we agree on the 1st choice faith school. BUT she is prone to errors with these forms based on past history. The trust with her is such that if she said the sky was blue I’d need to look out the window for myself. She has the application form and has directed she will submit, but I cannot rule out her repeating what she did last time. My daughter is the most important one in this, she counts herself a Christian and wants this school as her first choice too, but that wouldn’t matter to my X.
Could I appoint a mediator or a 3rd party of some sort to complete this form on our behalf ?..... is that something they could do?
I want to contact X back and say “ I’ve appointed a 3rd party to complete the form to ensure its completed to reflect these discussions accurately”
I have the option of the threat of court if necessary but that seems a bit like a sledgehammer to a nut…. At the end of the day if she kicks up a stink at a 3rd party completing the form and returning it it would prove to me that she is playing games.
hi,
if i was in your position, i would not burn myself out, arguing about schools. my ex did whatever she pleased. and i was just told kids now go to x school. i'm just interested in spending time with the kids.
Hi,
Id agree with Bill, but as your ex is engaging and the school is important to you can you get an agreement with her that she will send a copy of the form to you 1st to review or FYI so you can be in agreement on its completion (and for your records)?
If she then amends etc she would have to explain at court as that's what you would do.
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