[Solved] Child Arrangement, Prohibited Steps Order and NMO on False Allegations

Mentally is this good when knowing full well further false allegations can be made?

If your telling them you can't trust the ex with regards to handovers and further false allegations being brought up wouldn't cafcass have something in place for the kids to have a stable contact with their father. Without the mother breaking it knowing full well she won't be mentally punished...?

I'm hearing many stories here even from those who have followed the advice, that the final order is till getting broken. What's the answer for that? 

hi, There is no answer. You do still get many cases where after final hearing contact is stopped and you have to follow the process again.

Normally however mums dont realise , but everytime they dont comply especially after your non mol has finished you will keep getting a little bit extra here and there to compensate in the long run. Your children are very young so any contact is going to be phased.

The court have served a non molestation on you, but its not the end of the world. You can take your boy football end of march, children are young so contact wouldnt be much at moment due to their age. Dont bad mouth your ex to cafcass think of solutions how to avoid false allegations . It might be that your ex if you are not making any allegations or running her down that she may back off a bit as well.

As for contact a school is a very useful handover point for midweek contact and for weekend contact . if schools are closed perhaps a supermarket.

You appeal the decision and raise more issues there is a real risk of it going down the road of you having no contact , a dvpp course been forced on you. Cafcass and courts dont conflict , its much better if u let her raise her issues and calmly dismiss them over and over again . It makes u look the better parent and they will have no reason to make your life harder than it really is.

You are right as dads are taking ex partners to court and they will get away with false allegations and breaching . What hurts them the most is giving a dad contact until one day they accept child wants both parents and doesnt want to see conflict. 

So hopefully when u speak to cafcass draw a line under whats happened dont appeal and put it all down to frustration and that she resented you for getting a new partner . At the time u were seeing babies whenever u wanted daily etc and calls , however u now realise she stopped this and you found it hard to suddenly going from daily contact  to a lot less and things become hostile . U got frustrated and didnt know what to do and felt she was using children to hurt you.

You accept now children need a routine and stability and that it is in best interests of children that you dont have to be friends , but are able to put your differences aside and co-parent and children are able to have a loving relationship with both parents.

Hopefully if your ex gets to hear about the above she will try to co-parent as well. she dont seem the worst ex partner . I say this because she is already offering u to take boy to football and this will be something hopefully that goes ahead and can be mentioned to cafcass.

There is no right answer. The advice given here is based on everyone's own experiences and knowledge.

Your end objective is to have a good contact schedule with your children. You need to remove emotions and strategically plan the best route for you to achieve your end objective.

Yes you can fight the NMO, are you likely to be successful if without any further critical evidence you just replay the same hearing again? Potentially unlikely, however you will have further delays and increase the chances of a DV course. 

If you don't fight it and instead focus on seeing the kids and building up contact then achieving a phased contact plan is a possible outcome.  Remember your ex is allowing you to take son to football, eventually he will want more contact as long as you remain child focused.

Only you can decide on the next course of action, however, take a step back and think clearly without the emotions, anger, bitterness before you decide. 

Please see the Section 7 Report carried out by CAFCASS. 

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dog attacking the child false

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Anyone able to provide some advise on how to response to the blackmail report?

looks like a very harsh report. before you went to court, were you seeing your children? I would suggest you argue your case, to have just 1 telephone call with your child a month is not in the child's best interest and you would want this to progress to in-person/unsupervised contact. Judging by the report, for any normal contact to happen, then you would be expected to follow the cafcass recommendation to accept past abusive behaviour and be willing to address it, take some kind of parenting course. etc. Have you been self-representing?