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Firstly sorry if this has already been mentioned, I currently have an arrangement order which my child will spend with me every other weekend and phone calls twice a week, my ex is now ignoring my messages so I have zero contact with her and I only get replies from her partner. Since this has started happening I am now getting messages from him saying my son doesn't want to come and he will not allow me to talk to him and ask him why he feels that way. I am being told by my ex partner I pressure my son into doing things he dosnt want to do which is not true (my son is 9 by the way) the only things I pressure him I to doing is brushing his teeth and having a wash. I have now missed a weekend as he is messaging me saying am I going to force him to come which I belive is pushing me to be the bad guy when they should be influencing him into coming. I am not a bad parent and belive I am doing nothing wrong. If I block my exs partner I am worried I will have nothing at all with contact. How can I get my ex to start messaging me again so we can resolve this matter.
hi,
sorry to hear this. do you usually collect child from school on friday? if you have tried and child refusing, then if you believe mother and partner are influencing this behavior, you could look at returning to court, and their social workers could assist. you could apply with enforcement order, detail how order is being breached.
@dadmod2 I do not pick him up from school as we live across the country, we meet half way at a service station. I understand I will have to apply to enforce the order but do I have any way I can stop communicating with my exs partner as the conversations are always toxic towards me and make we look like a bad guy even though I'm trying my best to understand. I need the mother who I should be coparenting with to be able to communicate with me
@kurb if there is nothing in your order about communications with ex, you should seek a change so that you and ex communicate via a parenting app like appclose or talking parents.
My order has that she needs to make sure I get two calls a week, but I am not getting any communication from her at all. The only communication I am getting is through her partner. I'm worried if I block him will she not reply to my messages and then is it my fault that communication has stopped
Suggest you set up AppClose and invite her to join. Are you getting school reports? The school should keep you informed about your son's progress. You could discuss the situation with the school family liaison person.
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