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OK so enforcement hearing has orderd another section 7 based on example lies anyway its taking place next week cafcass is going to visit my boys at school this time (age 5 and 8) and then coming to visit me at my house, what I'm wondering is has anyone had this and what sort of things do they do when they go to school to see the children, will they ask them questions and take there answers into account? I'm just concerned about my youngest as ex has filled his head to the point where when she asks he says he doesn't want to see me.
hi,
what cafcass will likely do is go and speak to headteacher or other teachers, find out what the attendance record is like for kids, and any concerns etc. They will try to find out what kind of mood the kids are in, are they happy, do they like seeing dad.
for you I would recommend you complete a parenting plan from the cafcass site: https://www.cafcass.gov.uk/grown-ups/parents-and-carers/divorce-and-separation/parenting-plan/
when they visit you, mention it and show it to them. it will show that your serious about co-parenting and your child-focused. try to keep the conversations about the child and not your ex. they will probably ask you to answer to some allegations from your ex. calmly respond. Also tell Cafcass what kind of child arrangements your seeking.if you have a position statement about it, give it to them.
@bill337 thanks, this is the 2nd time we have had to go through a section7 absolutely sick of the accusations il have a look at the parenting plan I have everything set out what time I want and extra time added after now 9 months of not seeing the kids after another 10months going through court the 1st time it really isn't fair being treated like I'm harmful to my kids when it's just her lies
Sorry for the rant
If Cafcass do speak to the children, it's good they are doing this at school and not with the mother present. Cafcass usually know the questions to ask to ascertain if a parent is influencing a child's wishes and feelings & they will usually speak to the teachers too.
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