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Hi Guy's,
I had my Cafcass interview last week before court in a few weeks, It went really well tbf probs the best I've had out of the 3 previous times I've dealt with them but my guard is up as they have totally Sh@ on me in the past.
I mentioned that I will be applying for residency which she seemed positive about (I don't believe for one minute that I will get it) I'm sort of hoping they will give us shared residency but we shall see.
I've not seen my girl for 4 months and I'm gutted I can't be there for the poor kid during this covid, I don't know if she's gone back to school or not, In a nutshell the ex is up to her usual tricks, never getting out of bed, constantly out her face on anti depressants, drink, coke, sleeping tablets, house a state, my girl making her own food as she wont get out of bed.
Her other daughter phoned the police as they couldnt wake her who attended and done a report to SS, the ex has stopped me seeing her as she has started to tell me about all the abuse. its her way of silencing my girl.
I'm enforcing the order from 4 years ago which states I should have my girl friday til mon over night wed, thats the way its been for 5 years, I'm going for residency and pretty much want to keep it to 4 nights a week as before, when I told cafcass I wanted residency they said I'd be on the back foot without a solicitor.
Theres no way I can afford one now as I've been laid off and claiming although I'm on a business start up scheme which is going really well. I don't feel like a solicitor is needed as I feel pretty confident.
Has anyone else gained residency or shared care without a solicitor?
SS are saying get residency so to the police and Cafcass warmed to the idea Im just worried they'll screw me over at court as I don't trust any of them bar the actual judges.
many thanks
slim
I really don't understand this? So your ex is a risk to the childrens well being and is a frequent drug user which SS are aware of and she still gets to keep the kids and you cannot even see them? This is ridiculous!! I really hope you can get residency as it sounds like they will be far better off with you.
I would imagine a court hearing would really work in your favour based on what you have told us.
it sounds odd that cafcass saying you need a solicitor if you want residency. perhaps they think there is not strong enough case for it. their s7 report carries a lot of weight. if they recommend change of residency or 50/50 in the report, then usually this is what the judges will go by.
Hi Guys,
thanks for the replies, yeah its insane her own child phones the police as they couldnt wake her and now I'm the one who is controlling abusive ect ect same old bull.
as it happens Ive just recieved the safe guarding letter and shes claiming DV because I took my daughter saying I attacked her, Cafcass arent recommending interim contact, asking court to consider a fact finding because of the DV allegations and are asking nothing of the ex, they have asked to see the final SS report from all the involvent theyve had this year.
They have said they dont think the old contact of mon wed for tea and friday till monday is suitable anymore which is unreal as thats the only way I've managed to limit the abuse over the years.
They obviously are not going to support me in residency so it looks like I've got no chance of that
What a sorry story it looks like im screwed and the ex can carry on the abuse like she has done for the past 7 years.
I'm not giving up though I'll still apply for residency and just carry on fighting, what a kick in the teeth though
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