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Hi all, i have a current court order for my children, I have recently asked for the ex for more time with them which it does state in the order that we discuss this between ourselves. She is pretty much refusing, if I apply to vary the order, can cafcass get involved if I request it. My kids are desperate to see me more often and they were too young to to really understand last time the were spoken to by cafcass (the youngest was 2 eldest was 5 at the time and 2 years have passed since) I feel if they were to speak with them or even see me with them it would help me a lot in them suggesting I should have more time with them
Hi,
Usually cafcass get involved right from the start, so you have your initial call with them. Court may order cafcass to do section 7 report, so they will interview you and talk to your kids. What is your current arrangements like?
I have had cafcass involved, full section 7 report and no issues from them. At the moment, I get one night every other weekend and a couple of hours on a Wednesday after school. Although covid has messed that up as when they are not at school due to isolating or holidays, I lose that day until they go back to school.
I have asked for more contact, I have asked for Friday to Monday every other weekend and one week this year in the summer holidays, but this has been refused. The ex is using the fact our youngest daughter has been diagnosed with autism recently as an excuse. although she is happy here, she does not play up or get anxious and sleeps well too. So i was wandering if I apply to vary the order, could cafcass get involved and actually do visits and see me with the kids and even talk to them again and suggest contact should increase.
Unfortunately, my ex has been making things up trying to say that since she has had over nights with me, her nursery "can no longer cope with her" as she is playing up and will only be going 3 days a week. This is not true as I called the nursery and spoken with a health visitor who is monitoring her progress (she is 4 but not really talking much) . She also said that her nursery closed early last week due to three positive covid results so they closed early for half term. I called the nursery and this was not true either.
hi,
I think it's reasonable to ask court for more contact. 2 nights a month is not a way to have a meaningful relationship with a child. As child is in nursery it should be easier for cafcass to give more contact, like fri-mon. you could also ask for a mid-week overnight if your able to do it. are you able to have child for 2-3 weeks in summer, a week in easter and xmas?
Yes I am able to, it is exactly what I want but the ex is just refusing it. It is frustrating and she says she is doing what is best for the children, but I do not agree. The odd thing is she tells me I should help more with their school work etc. It is what I want to do but how do I do that with 2 nights a month? Right now, she is allowing me to have them Friday to Sunday but only during the summer holidays (although one week they are on holiday with their mum so it I will miss one Friday) then it goes back to just Saturday to Sunday every fortnight when they go back to school?