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I’m gonna start off by saying the whole thing is a [censored] mess
so it started off with I was looking after my child two years ago through the summer holidays as my ex had a new job as she couldn’t take any time off work but my job allows me to have time off work for my children. I just will not be paid for it so I took a hit on pay when it came to November time I contacted my ex and said I’m very much behind on my car payments because I’ve been looking after our son through the summer I’m not been working much so we agreed on not paying her child maintenance until the car is up-to-date on payments just after Christmas, she told me she wants to take the boys on holiday on by herself. My child was only 3 at the time and my eldest was five I was not keen on the idea as this took me by surprise. I reluctantly said no then she told me to get out of our house then a few weeks later I had a letter from CMS I explained the situation to child maintenance but it just wasn’t interested so they backdated it and my payment every month was £288 and I always pay her early fast forward to November just gone I bought my two boys Nintendo switches for Christmas I told my ex what I bought them she wanted to go halves so I took the half out of the child maintenance I gave her then we had a big argument and she ran to CMS saying I have not been paying her I paid her back the money and I gave the evidence in I’ve just received a letter today saying I owe £900 in arrears and now I owe £481 every month me and my ex are not on good terms at the minute I earn very little wage and I would not be able to afford to live I have told my ex I might as well quit my job because I won’t be able to afford to live with a job my mental health at the minute has just plotted I don’t even know what the £900 arrears is because I’m all up-to-date with bank statements I have tried to contact CMS, but they are so difficult to get hold of I’m so Fearful, for the first time in my whole Adult life I am not gonna have a job and I don’t know what the future is gonna be but I told my ex are not being financially abused anymore and this will affect her massively because she only has a part-time job 12 hours at Primark
hi,
sorry to hear about your situation. I think it was a bad idea to adjust the cms payments. when they set it for you, you shouldn't make your own changes. now all you can do is contact them and tell them your struggling to pay arrears and they spread repayments out over 2 years or more.
if arrears are wrong, then you should contact your MP and ask them to raise complaint with CMS.
I recommend you join this support group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/239699060076601/?ref=share
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