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My CAO states I get my daughter every other weekend, no specifics about bank holidays. I previously dropped her off on Sunday evening but now she has started school I drop her off at school on Monday mornings, looking ahead at next year there are quite a few bank holiday Monday’s, my ex has previously expected me to ‘ignore’ the extra day and drop her off as usual. Am I within my rights to drop her at school on Tuesday?
hi,
is there any mention in your court order about half of school holidays and how that's arranged??
in a previous order, I asked to have bank holidays. Then ex wanted 50/50 on all bank holidays and conveniently reserved the mondays. If it's not in your order and your ex won't allow it then technically you would be breaching the order. in my order I also do monday school drops, but if theres school holidays, then I have to return kids on monday 7pm.
I think that if the order states weekends, then that ends on Sunday night, or Monday morning if it states overnights. I would say that your ex could argue that in court if it came to it. I would try to come to an agreement to see if you can have some of the Mondays, but not all - if you can avoid court, it will be much better for all of you.
Thanks, yes the order states half of school holidays which are attached to weekend contact, so depending on how it falls either first half or second half.
The order specifies what happens for contact during the main school terms using the phrase ‘namely’ at the start, so I guess I can try to see if the ex will agree to half the bank holidays.
It's worth looking at dates for the next year and see where your weekends fall. You might find that some of the bank holidays fall within your holiday time anyway? See what remains and then ask your ex to discuss?
I used to have a similar 'difference of opinion' with my son's mother, as she saw school time as also belonging to her. If your daughter is usually with you on weekends until Monday am school drop off, on those Mondays when school is closed for a Bank Holiday or Inset Day, at the very least you should expect to have her until the time school would normally have closed in the afternoon. Bank Holidays weren't directly specified in our order either, but that's what I argued when confronted by the mother's insistence that I 'follow the Order' and return him to school (which was closed) at 9am, from where she would pick him up. My point was even following her skewered argument, she wouldn't normally have been picking him up until 3.15pm, and the order specified I return him to school, not the school gates.
On the whole apart from the May Day Bank Holiday, all the others are usually part of the school holidays, though there might be an exception in 2022 as I've heard there will be an extra one or two to celebrate the Queen's 70 years on the throne.
On the whole apart from the May Day Bank Holiday, all the others are usually part of the school holidays, though there might be an exception in 2022 as I've heard there will be an extra one or two to celebrate the Queen's 70 years on the throne.
I'm afraid that one works against you - the Monday May day bank holiday is being moved to the Thursday, with the Friday being the extra Bank Holiday to give a long weekend.
Thanks for letting me know that Actd - that actually does work well for me as my son is with me every Wednesday - Thursday term time, so I shall definitely expect my son to be with me the whole of that Thursday at least.
Guys what are you doing bank Holidays are for relaxing and gaming
You can actually do both with your kids.
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