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Hi, looking for some advice here.
My partner separated from his ex wife around 11 years ago. They went through family court at the time and contact was all agreed at this time. She was incredibly difficult throughout these proceedings and one of the things she raised in court was his alcohol consumption - my partner had a professional job and does not have an issue with alcohol but likes a drink at the weekends or on holiday like anyone else. Although it was raised in court, there was never any instructions regarding alcohol put into any agreement. However, as a matter of respect and to avoid any conflict, he didn’t have a drink in the presence of the children for almost 9 years. Last January, he contacted her to say he would like to be able to have a few beers on special occasions, like a family meal or a holiday. She said she was not happy about this but would think about it, but he never heard anything back. He had a few drinks on the last two holidays we have went and a few special occasions and no concerns were ever raised. However, last week following a disagreement about something else, she has told him he is not allowed to have a drink when he has the children and she is prepared to go to court about this. Threats about court are obviously very stressful, especially when he has done everything by the book for almost ten years and has never done anything wrong or there have never been any issues in our care.
I wondered if anyone knew what chance she would have of taking this to court, and whether she would be likely to be successful in such a matter? Not having a drink now feels like he is giving in to her threats but we also do not want any added stress or upset. It is perfectly normal for a parent to have a few drinks when caring for their children. It should also be noted that her and her family drink regularly in the presence of the children. Any advice or expert advice would be most appreciated. Thankyou for taking the time to read.
hi,
it does sound pretty controlling. either parent can make court application about any issue, and court can decide on it's merits. I think it's better if he does not contact her about his drinking habits, as it just invites her to interfere and dictate rules.
to keep the peace and avoid court, could he just have alcohol free/mocktails when the kids are with him?
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