[Solved] Advise please

hi,

it's good that you filed for c100 early. sounds like they trying to use your kids for leverage in divorce proceedings.

it doesn't cost money to apply for an occupation order, so don't know what that solicitor is on about. you could apply for one and see what the court decides. your ex could apply for a non-molestation order against you, and give you more hardship. be careful with communication with your ex.

Thanks Bill.

Her solicitor charges 3.5k to take out court orders so that is what he would ask me to pay if i go around there.

I'm scared of all the lies my wife has been telling people. Its now 6 weeks since i have seen my children. She seems to think that because the solicitor advised her for me not to have contact, then that is the law.

Her solicitor is hers and works for her. You don't pay a penny for them. Never ever.

Thanks for the reply. Is the following from her solicitor an empty threat then:

We further understand that you have vacated the former family home and that you have
left your keys to the property with our client. We would therefore ask that you confirm that
you will not return to the property except by prior agreement with our client.
In the event you are unwilling to do so, we have advised our client to apply to the court for
an occupation order that will prevent you from returning to the property. If it becomes
necessary for our client to enforce such an order then our client will seek that you pay the
legal costs.

Sorry to hear your issues. The best bit of advice right now is to ignore your ex. Do not contact her in any way, keep a copy of any messages she sends you. Only communicate with her solicitor. It sounds to me that she seems to be gearing up against a non-molestation order.
Try and approach her solicitor for some other forms of contact, phone calls, facetime calls or contact centres, as it is not fair to keep the kids away from you.

Just sit tight, it will get rocky at times, but just keep your cool, keep child focused and hopefully it will all be sorted soon enough for you.

avoid going to the property. wait for the c100 hearing date. if you apply for occupation order, judge will assess your situation, like can you afford to find your own accomodation. they would prefer the kids to stay with mum in current property.

Thanks for all of the advice guys. It's amazing how much my wife has changed.

I'm currently staying at my parents house.

Im hoping in the court proceedings to use that fact that she hasn't been social distancing, didn't tell me she took our daughter to A&E and has comitted tax fraud in the past

None of those things are going to materially change the outcome I'm afraid.

Her solicitor can threaten whatever they want - it's a common scare tactic. Ignore the threats.

I don't actually think it will go to court as she won't be able to afford the solicitors fees. I'm still paying for everything why she goes out and has fun.

its possible she may be getting legal aid? or is she on a good income?

also you can apply for occupation order for free and still take it to court.

No her solicitor doesnt accept legal aid, they look expensive on their website.

I don't know what lies she told her solicitor. But on my letter he advised her not to let me have contact with the children at all at the moment. Bearing in mind the day I left I looked after them all day while she was at work, I'm the one that gets them up and puts them to bed. She left them with me while she went and saw her neighbours and breaking lockdown rules. She even let one of her friends, who is blind, have a drive of her car around an empty car park.

So in 6 weeks, I have gone from looking after the children everyday, to not even getting a picture sent or letting me talk to my daughter.