“I think that sometimes if you try and tighten the bonds and be more controlling – are you going to then create resentment in your children? Are you going to create a situation where they look at you and go, “don’t really like what me dad’s doing? I feel constricted.” Or are you going to be supportive and give them their own time to do things – loosen those bonds, but have them know that they can run around they can do their own thing, but you’re there to support them when they need it?”